For over 20 years, I've helped couples face the quiet distance that erodes connection. What I bring isn't theory, but a grounded way to notice what's really happening, and find a path back to each other.
My approach
No one-size-fits-all. No blame. No labels. Most couples I work with still care, but they’re stuck in loops they can’t see. My role is to help you spot the patterns driving the distance, and change them before they become permanent.
About Me
I’ve worked with hundreds of couples, and I’ve lived this myself. After 25 years of marriage (and mistakes), I know how fast love can fade into routine. What I’ve seen again and again is this: it’s not about hacks or willpower. It’s about feeling safe enough to be real. That’s what brings couples back to each other.
Let’s Work Together
If you are feeling more like roommates than partners, I can help you break hurtful patterns and reconnect without pressure. No shame. No scripts. No jargon.
Years ago, my wife and I looked like the perfect couple. Inside, we were just co-managing life. The warmth was fading. We almost lost each other before I understood what was happening.
That experience taught me something: the couples who reconnect aren't the ones who wait for crisis. They're the ones who notice the drift early and do something about it.
Why Both Partners Feel Heard
Most relationship help alienates men. I get it. I’m a guy. I understand why men walk into this work braced or wary. That’s why I crafted the program the way I did. Men often say this is the first time the process has felt fair and workable, and how relieved they are to not be labeled the problem. While women often tell me it’s a relief not to carry the emotional work alone. I focus on the pattern between you, not taking sides. That’s the difference.
My Approach
No one-size-fits-all. No blame. No labels. Most couples I work with still care, but they're stuck in loops they can't see. My role is to help you spot the patterns driving the distance, and change them before they become permanent.
Most couples wait until they're "bad enough" to get help. By then, patterns are hardened, and emotional distance feels normal. The couples who reconnect catch it while there's still warmth underneath.
You can't fix what you can't see. Most disconnect comes from invisible patterns—how your Enneagram type triggers your partner's, and vice versa. Once you see it, you can shift it.
Love doesn't fix disconnection. Understanding does. Couples who reconnect don't try harder—they try differently. They learn the moves their relationship actually needs.
Let's Work Together
If you're feeling more like roommates than partners, I can help you break hurtful patterns and reconnect. Without pressure. No shame. No scripts. No jargon.
